Tuesday, December 20, 2011
My husband wrote about ual fantasies with other women and kept the journal.?
I was looking for something else in the house, when I came across a journal in my husband's belongings, which I thought was a different journal he had made before about fun travel plans we have for the future. I was not snooping or anything, I have always trusted him and I thought this was our journal, but it was a different one It was stating that he feels bad about having these thoughts, but that he had to write them down. Basically they were very, very detailed and graphic descriptions of ual fantasies he has about other women and girls, people that I know. He was describing very specific times when he was talking to someone, consoling her about a breakup, or other friends from high school that he was catching up with. He was describing a very strong desire to have with them (going as far as to say things about their and "wet" genitalia (of course he used the P word to describe that), saying he wanted to do them both at the same time and imagined them making out with each other (the girls), because it turned him on. He also said things like that about his step mother, step sister, and more but I find it too disturbing to write. He wrote in the beginning that he doesnt want to hurt anyone and that he loves me, but he has these evil thoughts and cant control them, and that he has to write them down. He wrote that he loves his family, and that he will not write anything about me in this journal, because that's out of boundaries and he loves me. I cant write everything but I was so angry and upset and disturbed... I don't even want to hug him or kiss him when he comes home tomorrow (he is in the Navy and has an overnight shift every third day, all the people in his section do). I dont even feel like we can make love again...not for a very long time. I don't want him to touch me, especially if he has thoughts like that even about me...I am so disgusted right now...but he is my husband and I still love him no matter what. I made a promise to him and to God in front a a congregation... I am deeply hurt and I dont know what to do. I still want to be with him, forever, but I am also shaken and disturbed. I know he has not acted upon any of those thoughts, but now I know they are always in his mind. I know ping thoughts are normal, but these are very detailed. I think he might have a problem or something too... but I am so angry and so confused. I spoke to him on the phone and he knows I'm upset but I can't bring myself to say why on the phone. What should I tell him? How should I say it? He is texting me right now, and I dont know what to say or if I even want to talk to him. I know he doesnt like the thoughts and is probably ashamed of them, but I am still beyond upset, I dont know how I can get over this. I think he has a problem of some sort, but I dont know what it is. Please help me, or us, we are a young couple and I have always felt so great about our relationship. I want to fix this, I love him more than anything :'-(
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